Truths : I Choose Friendship
i wrote this post at the beginning of this year.
literally, in january.
i was going through a hard time with two people i trusted whole-heartedly, loved & of course, thought were my friends.
i wrote the post,
it felt good to write it,
shared it with a couple of my besties
& then never posted it.
it just wasn't the right 'time'... or maybe i just wasn't ready.
then recently one of my best friends got really sick & ended up in the ER. to say it was scary is an understatement. i knew deep down inside that she was going to be alright (which she is, thank you God!), but in those moments at the hospital & throughout the following days, my ego creeped in & i couldn't help but think about the dreaded 'what if's'.
which is when this post started to creep back into my mind. why?
because she is a TRUE friend. one of those rare gems that i am forever grateful for, that everyone should be blessed to have at least ONE in their life. i am beyond lucky to have a handful & thank God for them daily.
so i decided to share my post today.
maybe some of you will relate,
maybe it will help a few of you going through a tough time in a friendship,
or maybe it will help you realize all over again how special your best friends really are.
without further ado, my original post :
TRUTHS : I CHOOSE FRIENDSHIP
i think somewhere or somehow we all have been in this situation, or something similar to it.
you have a great friend, or at least someone you think is a great friend.
you trust this person.
you tell this person all the truths about you.
you give this person the keys to your home.
you tell this person that you love them.
you introduce this person to your other close friends.
they love this person because YOU love this person.
all is happy. or so it seems.
years pass & your friendship grows. you think all is great & then, for whatever unbeknownst reason, one day it's just not. everything is different.
your 'friend' starts acting weird, becomes more distant & this same 'friend' who told you too many times how "if they had a problem with another friend, they would just tell them" does the COMPLETE opposite to you!
instead this friend just stops calling, texting, emailing & being the 'friend' that they were for so many years.
you reach out, try to figure out what happened because (silly you) you actually care, & receive nothing but fluff back.
and eventually nothing at all.
you are hurt tremendously & feel deceived, fooled and TOTALLY, utterly confused. you call your best friends, who also can't understand what exactly happened???.
and of course, nothing ever gets 'figured out'... time passes & you just naturally move on.
yet, this doesn't necessarily mean that the pain you feel from this betrayed friendship does entirely.
so my question to you today is :
if you know that someone has immensely hurt your friend, do you still be friends with them?
or leisurely comment on their Facebook?
or follow them on Instagram?
& pretend like what they did to your real friend was okay through our loose social media ways?
all the while knowing in the back of your head their true colors?
literally, in january.
i was going through a hard time with two people i trusted whole-heartedly, loved & of course, thought were my friends.
i wrote the post,
it felt good to write it,
shared it with a couple of my besties
& then never posted it.
it just wasn't the right 'time'... or maybe i just wasn't ready.
then recently one of my best friends got really sick & ended up in the ER. to say it was scary is an understatement. i knew deep down inside that she was going to be alright (which she is, thank you God!), but in those moments at the hospital & throughout the following days, my ego creeped in & i couldn't help but think about the dreaded 'what if's'.
which is when this post started to creep back into my mind. why?
because she is a TRUE friend. one of those rare gems that i am forever grateful for, that everyone should be blessed to have at least ONE in their life. i am beyond lucky to have a handful & thank God for them daily.
so i decided to share my post today.
maybe some of you will relate,
maybe it will help a few of you going through a tough time in a friendship,
or maybe it will help you realize all over again how special your best friends really are.
without further ado, my original post :
TRUTHS : I CHOOSE FRIENDSHIP
i think somewhere or somehow we all have been in this situation, or something similar to it.
you have a great friend, or at least someone you think is a great friend.
you trust this person.
you tell this person all the truths about you.
you give this person the keys to your home.
you tell this person that you love them.
you introduce this person to your other close friends.
they love this person because YOU love this person.
all is happy. or so it seems.
years pass & your friendship grows. you think all is great & then, for whatever unbeknownst reason, one day it's just not. everything is different.
your 'friend' starts acting weird, becomes more distant & this same 'friend' who told you too many times how "if they had a problem with another friend, they would just tell them" does the COMPLETE opposite to you!
instead this friend just stops calling, texting, emailing & being the 'friend' that they were for so many years.
you reach out, try to figure out what happened because (silly you) you actually care, & receive nothing but fluff back.
and eventually nothing at all.
you are hurt tremendously & feel deceived, fooled and TOTALLY, utterly confused. you call your best friends, who also can't understand what exactly happened???.
and of course, nothing ever gets 'figured out'... time passes & you just naturally move on.
so my question to you today is :
if you know that someone has immensely hurt your friend, do you still be friends with them?
or leisurely comment on their Facebook?
or follow them on Instagram?
& pretend like what they did to your real friend was okay through our loose social media ways?
all the while knowing in the back of your head their true colors?
i choose my friendship with the person i have known longer & trusted through thick and thin.
to me, NOTHING is worth hurting my real, true friend.
maybe this doesn't seem like a big deal to you at all.
maybe it seems petty or silly.
but i can honestly say that i absolutely love, adore & cherish my friends.
so to me, it's NOT worth that extra FB 'like' when i know full well it would be hurtful to someone i really care about.
fakeness makes me cringe & yet social media these days (although it comes with pros & cons) seems to encourage it.
...but when it comes down to it,
we ALL have a choice to make at every moment.
i choose RESPECT.
i choose real, honest-to-goodness beautyFULL friendship.
what do you choose?
ksen